Tuesday, October 09, 2007


....it seems I have brushed shoulders with love a number of times recently. I was talking to a friend this weekend who was telling me about a lost love. My friend said, "I was really, really in love with this person." I could hear the regret and the loss echoing in my friend's voice. I could almost visualize how my friend's face would light up at the sight of this person, or the little spring in my friend's step this person must have brought. It made me feel very sad for my friend and I wonder-will my friend ever find love like that again? I hope so, oh I hope so.

Another friend of mine is in the beginning throes of a new romance. When I came in to work yesterday I just took a moment to observe. This friend has been literally glowing and I am very sure I have seen my friend floating "on cloud 9"! So, I just took a moment to watch my friend and feel the excitement. I am happy for my friend. I am enjoying my friend's joy.

When I was camping a couple weeks back, I must have seen 10 gray haired couples walking around, hand in hand. As we were leaving, we passed one of these couple and much to my daughter's chagrin, I rolled down the window and shouted, "You two are ADORABLE!" It made me happy to tell them that and from their smiles, I think it made them happy to hear that. Older couples walking hand in hand is one of my favorite things. To see a love that has stood the test of time, the ups and downs of life, the freshness and wonder to get to a place of deep and quiet passion and commitment is just a very beautiful thing.

Another of my favorite loves is the love that has been fought for and regained. This is not a pretty love, but it is a mighty love. There is a strength and determination you see in couples with this kind of love that creates an air of steadiness. I am in awe of this kind of love.

Personally, I don't remember what it was like to be in love. I know I must have been. I was shocked awhile back when I showed someone my wedding picture. The girl that I saw in the photo was so fresh faced and full of the future. I don't remember her. I don't really have a memory of what that love must have been, it is more of a thought really.

Before you feel too sorry for me...I have to say....while romantic love may not have been in God's plan for me, I have been incredibly surrounded by love. I am not just saying this so I don't look like a big loser...lol. I have told my daughter so many times, that if I were to die...I would die happy and fulfilled. God has filled my life with so many people, and so many wonderful relationships, that I feel I am a very rich woman!

Image taken from here.


Sara said...

what a fantastic two posts my sweet friend. i've been realizing more lately how much i am distracted by minor things while not fully realizing the great love that surrounds me. friends, family, the Mr. and the Lover of my soul, Jesus. it is enough to make us all glow if only we'd stop to truly feel it. and i love you.

Richard said...

I think the world is mostly confused about "romantic" love .

Sincerity and genuineness are far more important, yet people spend most of their time hiding themselves, making themselves out to be something other than they are.

I think most of society's emphasis on romantic love is really on selling deception.

On the other hand, who am I to talk? I've only ever had one girlfriend and many of female friends used to try pretty hard to try and get me to change my attitudes - telling me that women don't work the way I think they should (actually, do women ever work the way any man thinks they should?).

I am glad you are able to find strength and comfort in the affection around you.

KayMac said...

Sara: agree...too often distracted to appreciate what I am surrounded w/. Love you, too!

Richard: I am with you on the deception thing...prefer the honesty of who a person really is...we usually find out anyways, right?

I don't think men work the way we women think they should either (even though I grew up w/ 3 brothers)...sometimes they work better! lol