Thursday, March 25, 2010

RENEWING VOWS - PART 1

There were alot of divorces on my dad's side of the family. My (soon to be) husband had been divorced. All that history of divorce in our backgrounds scared me. So in an effort to break this chain of divorce we would bring into our marriage, we planned on renewing our vows every 5 years.



Year 5. I was working full time and putting myself through college. Our 5th anniversary fell on a Saturday. I had a morning class and an afternoon class. We met our pastor at church during lunch, just the three of us before God, as he lead us through vows of commitment and promise. I cried the whole time. Because, with some life behind us, the words we were promising to each other, the traditional marriage vows, took on a much weightier meaning than they had on our wedding day. It felt very sacred.

Year 10. Killing two birds with one stone, our vow renewal was also the cover for a surprise party for our pastor (or was it his wife? I can't remember which now.) Several couples gathered together at church and, once again, we recommited ourselves before God and friends "to love, honor and obey...as long as we both shall live." It was simple and beautiful and fun. It wouldn't be long after that we learned that God had plans for us that we had given up hoping for...we were going to become parents!

Year 15. My husband, my daughter and I gathered in Pastor Rob's office. Pastor Rob, like a brother to me and an uncle to my daughter, knew what was left unspoken. He knew the struggles. We repeated those vows while our little girl played at our feet, unaware that her parents were locked in battle, in turmoil. I silently prayed, "Oh My Lord. Help me get through this without breaking down. Help me to live out these vows."


Year 20. Me: "Our 20th anniversary is coming up. Do you want to renew our vows?" Him: "I don't care. It's up to you." We didn't. And divorced after 23 years, we never made it to Year 25.

7 comments:

Jessica said...

This brings tears to my eyes. You are absolutely stunning in that picture! And I see so much of you in Rachel looking at you so long ago. I love that you have a heart that longs to please the Lord. I love that despite all you have been through and all that has happened you still serve him faithfully. Thank you for being an example still and allowing God to use the imperfections of your life to give HIM glory!

Pat said...

This makes me sigh heavily...I love you my sweet friend.

Margie said...

this makes me sad...

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Trish said...

What a precious post... made me sad. God is faithful...big hugs!

Mary said...

This makes me sad :( We miss having you around SO much!

Crown of Beauty said...

I never got to read this post when it was posted, only today...

Thank you for sharing it the way you did...

Don't know what to day.

Love you,
Lidj