I was talking recently with someone who was struggling to get through the holiday now that she is divorced. The traditions, the places they would go, they people they used to spend the holiday with are all gone. Divorce is "a tearing apart, ripping assunder, severing" something that once was. That leaves one incomplete. Not whole. Changed. Handicapped.
A person needs a healing and adjustment period. A time for God and others to step in and minister. You can't rush that. You can't just get over it. You have to walk through it. It takes time, longer than most of us prefer. And then there is adjustment...learning to do new things and learning to do old things a new way, learning to do without, learning to function, and most of all, to learning to live despite the loss. Imagine, if you will, a person who has had an arm amputated. There will be the time needed to heal physically, emotionally, and spiritually. There is also the relearning of simple things like how to eat, and dress, and drive. It is the same for divorce, only you can't see the injury.
There are usually two responses I see to this. One, we want it fixed. Two, we don't want others to know so we hide our handicap. But there is a third response we need to consider....living wholly and wonderfully incomplete. The reality is--I have never met a complete person. I have only met people who are marred and scarred by life. So, what if we learn to embrace our incompleteness? What if God is glorified and it falls within His plan for us to remain incomplete?
Here is what I mean...I watched a show once about a woman who was born without any arms. She cooked, took care of her baby, drove a car, did all kinds of things by using her feet. She caught my attention and I was amazed and inspired by her life. So, what if you and I catch the attention of broken people everywhere, by living wonderfully incomplete, causing them to ask "How do you do it?" We can point them to Jesus Christ and help them learn how to live an abundant life, gloriously and wonderfully incomplete!
God promised that one day we would be perfected. When we are in His presence. That is His promise and our hope. But until that day comes...if you can't see...I will be your eyes...if I can't walk...can I lean on you?
Please be praying for the divorce recovery group I am a part of! Appreciate it!